Outside the rain was pounding on the sidewalk as I was in my office thinking about the conversation I was about to have. My heart was pounding and my thoughts were traveling at an unmanageable pace. I felt a mix of anxiety and excitement about a conversation that was...
If you listen to the news you’ll know that there’s a lot of chatter about recession and what we should be doing and thinking about. I listen to the news regularly and throughout the last three years I’ve really come to see how even well-intentioned hosts can fixate on...
Recently, one of my readers came into my workplace and said, “I read your Mindless Mondays.” We both broke out into laughter at the irony of the mistake. But this is one of the reasons I chose to put a pause on my weekly column: I needed to re-evaluate my reason for...
Fear is a natural emotion. It’s a survival instinct that provokes a heightened emotional response designed to grab our attention. Any emotion that does that is healthy and normal. The thing with fear is that we often react instinctively instead of exploring the...
I couldn’t figure out why I felt so numb. I couldn’t connect with any part of myself that felt good, happy or joyful. I was completely disconnected from feeling good, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. I had seen my doctor to figure out what was wrong – she...
I rarely get fixated on a TV show, but Bridgerton has me completely infatuated. The sexiness of the drama is compelling entertainment, but what captures my attention is witnessing the characters’ motivations. They’re so obvious, yet they're also so disconnected to...
As I was getting undressed for bed one night, I found myself in a moment of awakening. I noticed that I was having an argument with none other than myself. I was debating over what I should wear, which book I should read, when I should turn off my light and berating...
I get defensive when someone tells me I’m controlling, in part because this is an area of deep work for me. When I hear it, I fall into having disgusted feelings about myself. Mainly that I’m a bad human and no one is going to want to be around someone who's...
How many times have you said, “I have to do what’s right for me”? Over the last two years, as a business owner, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat absolutely dumbfounded, either head in my hands or staring at the wall, because I couldn’t figure out my next step....
I was sitting in my therapist’s office describing my absolute terror of attending a friend’s party. My social anxiety had reached an all time high, and every time I thought about going to the party my whole body tightened up and fear ravaged clear thinking. This was...