Lately I’ve been contemplating my dissatisfactions, judgements, critiques, and expectations of others. I’ve watched myself get swept up in the storms of my thoughts, convinced that my ideas are superior and my judgements are justified. Watching my arrogance and...
It’s a simple thing, sit quietly, be touched and moved by it, and your heart will open. That inspiration lives within each of us. The stillness is where we find love, we find joy, we find happiness. People who have complicated lives have a harder time connecting to...
Recently I received an emotional blow, unexpected and surprising. For a few days (weeks) I was challenged to move through without the emotional bombardment of deep sadness and self ridicule. I opened myself up to someone in a way I haven’t in a long time, and in the...
‘The version of yourself that you had to be in order to survive through something difficult, is not the version you can now be to move forward’. Healing is a complex process of time, acceptance, releasing, forgiveness (most often of ourselves), tending to your needs,...
About 25 years ago I wanted to live in a community called Noelleville; a place where I had all my friends. My vision wasn’t a town that revolved around me, it was for community, I just didn’t have the language to express that. I wanted to have a life that was full of...
When I was a teenager, maybe 14 years old, one of my sisters and I were having a heated argument – my solution was to throw a brush at her, which resulted in her tooth going through her lip. I think I tried to convince her not to tell my mom, but in truth I have no...
You know what question drives me crazy? When someone asks my daughter if she has a crush or a boyfriend. Or when people comment, to her, on her body, as if she has a say in how her body looks. This is the kind of inappropriate question adults ask kids, specifically...
Some people are so likable that the moment you meet them, you can’t seem to get enough of them, while others take time to warm up to. Some people are shiny objects that are easy to watch, while others can make you feel like you’re not so sure. Although we’re taught to...
My father was a stoic Swiss man, he worked hard and loved to travel. We were close, and we did a lot together, including skiing, hiking, running, taking fitness classes, and having long phone calls. He was a critical man and very rarely gave compliments. Mostly he...
What she needs is compassion. What I want to give her are my observations. What she needs is patience. What I want to give her is a prescription on how to improve her life. What she needs is love. What I want to give her is my firm feedback. These are the things I...