In her song, Dear Insecurity, Brandi Carlile sings “Dear insecurity, ah we meet again, don’t try to fight with me, you’re not really my friend, you take up half this bed, living rent free in my head, ah insecurity.” There is research that shows how resiliency is a...
‘The version of yourself that you had to be in order to survive through something difficult, is not the version you can now be to move forward’. Healing is a complex process of time, acceptance, releasing, forgiveness (most often of ourselves), tending to your needs,...
When I was a teenager, maybe 14 years old, one of my sisters and I were having a heated argument – my solution was to throw a brush at her, which resulted in her tooth going through her lip. I think I tried to convince her not to tell my mom, but in truth I have no...
Sitting in front of a room, with twenty sets of eyes looking at you while you teach a yoga practice can feel pretty intense. Not because I’m particularly interesting, but because people are coming to tend to themselves – to feel better physically and emotionally. At...
My father was a stoic Swiss man, he worked hard and loved to travel. We were close, and we did a lot together, including skiing, hiking, running, taking fitness classes, and having long phone calls. He was a critical man and very rarely gave compliments. Mostly he...
What she needs is compassion. What I want to give her are my observations. What she needs is patience. What I want to give her is a prescription on how to improve her life. What she needs is love. What I want to give her is my firm feedback. These are the things I...
Recently I was compelled to have a difficult conversation with someone I cared about – the relationship had hit a roadblock and an important conversation needed to happen. I never like these types of conflicts, but I’ve learned – the hard way – that when I don’t have...
I distinctly remember the stairs in my house as a teenager — it’s where my mom and I would fight. Where she would yell, and I would stand yelling back. One time I was trying to protect my sisters from her wild outrage. I had one upstairs and one downstairs and stayed...
I can’t stand it when people who get a lot of down time regularly claim the need to ‘rest’ — and then take it! I find it selfish and I perceive them as lacking motivation or not contributing to the world in meaningful ways. I feel deep shame for sharing that as my...
As you transition into the darkest days of the year, you’re likely busy. The holiday season is always rife with activity, and whether you’re a festive indulger or this season feels annoying, there tends to be a frenetic frequency in the air. In the midst of all the...