You will never find fulfilment in your car, house, furniture or electronics. Your worth is not in your six-pack abs, your athletic ability, your body or your face. What represents your life on the outside will never bring you a sense of peace on the inside. It will not soothe your desire to be liked or loved. It will never give you the happiness that a lot of us desperately want to feel.
This message is very close to my heart. Some of the people I love most in the world have yet to understand this. I watch how this lack of awareness destabilizes them. It leaves them feeling worthless and constantly in battle, either projecting onto others or depleted from the constant inner chatter of being less then who they think they should be. They feel depleted because they are constantly seeking affirmation from others.
Your social group, friends and invitations to parties or events will not support the subtle agitation you feel within.
Although you may find enjoyment from your belongings and thrive from your social connections, none of that matters if when you’re in a quiet space and alone, you feel like something is missing. Or if when you have the opportunity to be quiet, you need to be busy with your phone, book, to do lists and projects, online dating or focusing all your attention on your kids to fill the space. These are symptoms of being deeply agitated within, and often a sign that you are not allowing yourself to be with certain emotions.
When we are so absorbed by achieving, accumulating and doing, all of our attention moves outside of us.
We lose the ability to know what if feels like in our own bodies. Any sense of discomfort or anxiousness is met with a distraction that removes us from having to feel, or be in unprocessed emotions.
When you allow yourself to feel, to be in the discomfort and face yourself, all of you, especially those parts that feel pain and are uncomfortable, you will be able to accept yourself. Once you create the space to feel, to allow challenge to exist without needing to distract from it, you will be able to build a new relationship with yourself. It will be one that is more intimate and accepting of all of you.
Because you’ve stopped giving your power to your external belongings and your appearance and let go of seeking approval from your social networks, you will find a wholeness from within.
You will develop the capacity to feel everything you need from within. You will create the space to listen to your deepest, most raw – often unwanted – emotions.
You will learn to show up for yourself.
When I don’t compromise myself by subscribing to what I think other people value, I am aligned with my calm and grounded self.
When you accept yourself, and all your feelings, no matter how rugged they feel, you can become aligned with your ability to love yourself. This is when you will be most connected with a sense of wholeness.
with love, Noelle