Every thought is either pulling us towards or away from love. The thoughts we think when we wake in the morning directly impact our day. The thoughts we think about our partners determine what kind of relationship we’re going to have. If we minimize our partners in any way, we’re impacting the amount of love we can experience in that relationship.
If we walk into our place of work and look at someone and think of them as annoying, that will affect how we feel in our body and how they feel about seeing us. Every thought is a vibration, an energetic frequency, and it has power. This isn’t an abstract belief that is disconnected from reality, and as science has become the measure that we use to decide if something is credible, science has also determined the power of our thoughts.
There is science project that has been done in schools for years, where a child grows two plants; they speak kindly to one, and to the other with vitriol or meanness. The plant that is showered in kindness thrives and the one that is spoken to with harshness wilts.
On an online platform called “Medium,” author Lisa Woods studies positive thinking. She found that “…positive thinking is good for the immune system, reduces anxiety, and increases positive emotions such as happiness and awe. Positive thinking has been shown to be particularly beneficial when you are going ‘through the wire.’ When your life feels completely out of control, this powerful habit can set into motion a chain of events over which you have complete and total control. For example, positive thinking triggers positive emotions such as joy, interest, contentment, pride, and love.”
‘Joy, for instance, creates the urge to play, be creative and push limits. Contentment triggers the urge to savor the present and integrate current circumstances into new views of self and the world. Through the assistance of positive emotions, people who think positively in challenging circumstances are more likely to take actions that build resources, healthy coping skills, and resilience….’
Our thoughts provoke a vibration, our atoms respond to our thoughts, and those influence our entire cellular makeup. We’re derivatives of our mind, and our mind is responding to our physical body. The whole system works collaboratively.
Every thought has an equal and opposite reaction. When we think, it has a powerful effect on those we’re thinking of, even if that person is unaware of what we’re thinking. The thought is powerful in and amongst itself. The same way a river flows and doesn’t think about where it’s flowing, it just goes and interacts with the surrounding environment for better or worse. Our thoughts do the same thing when left unmanaged.
If we’re not aware of what we’re thinking, we’re allowing our entire operating system (body/mind/spirit) to function without integrity. Building a house on a foundation of sand will eventually cause the house to crumble, and that’s what tends to happen when we have unwatched thoughts— they bring us to collapse and crush our lives. This is also known as existential crisis, when we question the purpose of all things.
Our lives are built on thoughts, literally. Every single thought you have is either in creation of love or destruction of it. This may sound abstract, but when it comes to building a life that feels meaningful and healthy, it’s impossible when our thoughts are destructive or unkind.
This is not to make you worry about your thoughts, or make you believe that without the right thoughts, bad things are inevitable. Our new age wellness and psychology lingo might have us believe there’s something pathological to our thinking, which is mostly not the case. Our thinking is a function of our history and influences us throughout our lives. Healing work is an important part of transforming habits of thinking that are divisive, hurtful, painful, and exclusive.
Therapy that is designed to help ‘heal’ the wounds within you also helps heal the way you think. Our willingness to do that work is where most of our challenges lie.
Consider whether any given thought that travels through your mind is moving you towards or away from love? Asking that simple question, over and over again, will create healing.
Love is health, but thoughts that provoke fear, agitation, and division aren’t necessarily bad or unhealthy. Sometimes we need those thoughts in order to make change or see where we’re stuck. We’re interconnected beings, which is truth, and we can’t separate from each other, as much as some would like to. In this ecosystem of our humanness, planting thoughts that move us towards love, in any small way, builds connection and safety.
Try it, tell me if you think I’m wrong.
With love,
Noelle