From what I witness, humans have a strong need for certainty. Generally, we want to know what’s coming, and we want to have control. In order to have control, we need to know that things will come to fruition based on the way we have them mapped out in our minds. When...
In all spiritual and religious theologies, there are gods and goddesses of significance. Each one is a representation of archetypical aspects of us. They may look radically different than us, but the intent in invoking any archetype is to awaken those facets within....
Head in my hands, I was raw and broken. This wasn’t what I had imagined my life to be. I was alone, packing up my house, quivering with anxiety and overwhelm. Staring at a bookshelf filled with books that had supported me for years, I didn’t know which one to pick up...
In 2005 I travelled to Nepal with a friend who was a Doctor of Acupuncture. She had had her own practice for almost two decades and had a rich body of knowledge. She wanted to travel to Katmandu to stay with a friend there, a Buddhist monk. She was going to practice...
One of my biggest weaknesses has been my inability to say I am sorry. Even today, I am not professing to have mastered the art of apology, or of knowing when an apology is needed. The art of saying sorry shifts from situation to situation. Saying sorry isn’t an answer...
Does it seem a bit arrogant for me to claim I know the one thing that will bring more calm to your life? I think back to my days of waking up and going from zero to sixty in a matter of moments: getting breakfast made, making lunches, scrambling to get out the door on...
What makes someone tough? Is it because they bury all emotions? Or because they are unexpressive and unemotional in response to challenging events around them? Or is it rather that they have grit and the ability to power through unimaginable life situations that would...
Years ago, I took a humble look at my friendships and realized most of them were not working. It was a sad and scary time for me. It meant that I was the one who was going to have to change, and that that change would require letting go of friends — and I would lose a...
It’s kind of poetic, the idea of being broken. Being broken allows us to behave in certain ways – generally ways that keep us small. Being broken becomes a badge of honor that we proudly carry along with us. It feels almost righteous, like we have earned something....
“Sometimes when I say ‘I’m OK’, I want someone to look at me in the eyes, hug me tight, and say ‘I know you are not”’ Unknown Only within the last few years have I learned that I'm not alone when I'm in a dark emotional place. Most of my life, I thought I was the only...