I was sitting in my therapist’s office describing my absolute terror of attending a friend’s party. My social anxiety had reached an all time high, and every time I thought about going to the party my whole body tightened up and fear ravaged clear thinking. This was...
I’ve held on tight most of my life, as though I’m on a rollercoaster and I must find a way to keep myself in my seat. I grip tight and take what comes at me. In some ways that may seem like a strength, but honestly, I haven’t been able to discern between when to hold...
In case no one has told you this lately, you're outstanding at being a human. You've worked so hard and you've been through so much and you've been doing amazing with all the things life has thrown your way. You're a little hard on yourself at times, or a lot of the...
I couldn’t figure out why I felt so numb. I couldn’t connect with any part of myself that felt good, happy or joyful. I was completely disconnected from feeling good, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. I had seen my doctor to figure out what was wrong – she...
There are many things that challenge our ideas of success, and I would imagine that most of us don’t perceive ourselves as successful. We place a grave amount of importance on financial success, to the point that we stretch ourselves to the tip of our economic...
“If you don’t spend the time making the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with the life you don’t want.” Kevin Ngo Do you believe that your life circumstances make you who you are? Have you surrendered your dreams – or...
Have you ever woken up early in the morning with a looming sense of dread? Felt suffocated by life and anxiety that made you feel like the whole world was shaking? Even the things in your life that normally bring you joy couldn’t lift you out of that heaviness and...
If it costs you your joy, it’s too expensive. Unknown. I come from a generation of people raised by those who were brought up in the aftermath of wars, scarcity, and struggle where part of their norm. They were rebuilding (or maybe just building after years of...
Four years ago I had a radical idea: I would start writing my musings and thoughts in a weekly column. I planned to share my process and curiosities, and maybe someone would find it useful or interesting. I had no formal writing training and was terrified of being...
Our desire to be liked can be linked with not living for ourselves. It is a symptom of choosing to live based on the judgements of others instead of living our own authentic lives. I have learned that those who learn to make choices for themselves, and find the...