Our desire to be liked can be linked with not living for ourselves. It is a symptom of choosing to live based on the judgements of others instead of living our own authentic lives. I have learned that those who learn to make choices for themselves, and find the...
Last week I wrote about resilience, which could be one of the key factors in creating a happy life. With resilience, we learn how to lift ourselves up and see opportunities instead of seeing only failure, pain or struggle. I feel like there’s a desperation for...
Over the years, I've witnessed friends and family members get more settled in their beliefs and become less willing to see new perspectives and different points of view. I've watched as they choose to feed or hold on to anger rather than to forgive and let go. I've...
The theme of 2020 has been a deep and dark unearthing of our own resistance to change. We’ve experienced the ego’s desire to remain in control and fight against what’s happening. Our current world is based on disconnection and being emotionally unavailable. We don’t...
The more isolated we become, the less opportunity there is to be of service to our friends, family and community. The more we hibernate in our own worlds, the more we fixate on ourselves and become absorbed by our own processes. What makes healthy homes, communities...
From what I witness, humans have a strong need for certainty. Generally, we want to know what’s coming, and we want to have control. In order to have control, we need to know that things will come to fruition based on the way we have them mapped out in our minds. When...
From the time we are little children, people start asking, "What do you want to be?". Eager ears listen and expect answers like ‘firefighter, dog walker, doctor, swimmer, teacher, etc.’ From an early age we get fixated on measuring success by our accomplishments...
As we’re likely well acquainted with the word gratitude, let’s unpack this widely used word. Gratitude if often used to express how appreciative we are for situations, people, or events in our life. It’s an expression of ‘thanks’ for the boons of our life. However,...
Something is fractured in our social system. Stay with me, here: I’m not a pessimist, I’m an optimist, but I feel we’ve lost our way as a society. Despite the positive progress happening in the world, if we’re not able to look at where we’re broken, we can’t possibly...
One of my biggest weaknesses has been my inability to say I am sorry. Even today, I am not professing to have mastered the art of apology, or of knowing when an apology is needed. The art of saying sorry shifts from situation to situation. Saying sorry isn’t an answer...